Frustration convinces us that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another one or two or three.
Part I – Dealing With Frustration
Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we’ll be more content when they are.
After that, we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with.
We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.
We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, or when we get a nicer car, or are able to go on a nice vacation, or when we retire.
Part II – Realizing Frustration Is Not The Problem
The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now.
If not now, when?
Your life will always be filled with challenges.
It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.
One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D. Souza, who said:
“For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin—real life.
“But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid.
“Then life would begin.
“At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”
Part III – Happiness Comes From Accepting Frustration
This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness.
Happiness is the way.
So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time.
And remember that time waits for no one.
Part IV – Not Waiting Until
So, stop waiting until:
- you finish school
- you go back to school
- you lose ten pounds
- you gain ten pounds
- you have kids
- your kids leave the house
- you start work
- you retire
- you get married
- you get divorced
- Friday night
- Sunday morning
- you get a new car or home
- your car or home is paid off
- you are off welfare
- the first or fifteenth
- your song comes on
- you’ve had a drink
- you’ve sobered up
- you die
- or you are born again
Decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.
Thought for the day:
Work like you don’t need money,
Love like you’ve never been hurt,
And dance like no one’s watching.
THE BEST MEMORY SYSTEM
(Also A Wonderful New Year’s Resolution)
Forget the kindness that you do,
As soon as you have done it;
Forget the praise that falls on you,
The moment you have won it.
Forget the slander that you hear,
Before you can repeat it;
Forget each slight, each spite, each sneer,
Wherever you may meet it.
Remember every kindness done,
To you, whatever its measure;
Remember praise by others won.
And pass it on with pleasure.
Remember every promise made,
And keep it to the letter;
Remember those who lend you aid,
And be a grateful debtor.
Remember all the happiness
That comes your way in living;
Forget each worry and distress,
Be hopeful and forgiving.
Remember good, remember truth,
Remember heaven’s above you.
And you will find through age and youth
True joy and hearts to love you.