Missing Friendship Of Bruno

By Michael J. Weber

friendship of Bruno
Photo credit: Renee V

There have been a number of tragic stories about animal abuse in the past few weeks. Most often, the stories are about people who died and/or left numerous cats and dogs in their home unattended, with many becoming sick or dying.

These sad stories anger most of us with sensibilities toward animals. Perhaps if we looked at animals in a different way, we might prevent some of this abuse.

Someone once said that our relationship with animals mirrors our relationship with God.

I think dogs, more so than other pets, often bring out the best in us. They often show us what being human is all about, teaching us to enjoy life’s simple things.

They also offer lessons in friendship and trust and, more important, in steadfast, unconditional love. In this sense, they are gateways to the divine.

Most people have heard the one about the agnostic dyslexic who questioned: “Is there a dog?” Well, a few days with Bruno and one would find sufficient metaphors to answer in the affirmative.

Bruno Weimaraner
Photo credit: Janet’s photography

Bruno was an 80-pound Weimaraner that lived eight short years with us before he had to be euthanized. He died of heart disease and bone cancer, not uncommon in large purebreds. We all have heard of owners who grieve their dogs and vice versa, but experiencing this firsthand was gut-wrenching.

Bruno’s love for us was unconditional. He turned our lives upside down. This is what I mean when I say that dogs can be gateways to the divine.

Anyone who has cared for a dog knows what it means – you lose control of your life. You eventually have “to let go and let dog!”

Borrowing from the book “Dogspell: A Dogmatic Theology on the Abounding Love of God” by Mary Ellen Ashcroft, one can find many theological metaphors in the behaviors of most dogs: the open table-fellowship (dogs don’t care whom they eat with), the “full-body wag greetings,” the getting down and dirty (touching lepers and spitting in the mud), the disrespecting of the standoffish and the well-heeled (dogs will jump on everyone) and the rushing head-long into anything. Bruno had all of these traits and more.

Bruno gave his all, no matter what the situation. Two of his major surgeries were due to football injuries on his back legs.

Bruno at play
Photo credit: Janet’s Photography

Bruno’s approach to life was filled with wild exuberance and joy – pulling the Thanksgiving turkey on himself, eating full bags of doughnuts, getting into lipstick. Our vet’s assistant called him the “dog that ate Grafton.”

He once chased a raccoon and got the worst of it. He never figured out opossums. He got a fishing hook stuck through his nose after messing around in the garage. He would fearlessly pick up snakes. He was constantly hiding things but was happy to show you later where he hid them (if he remembered). He would never eat alone. He would sit like a human on the couch, philosophizing with the best of us.

If you weren’t giving him enough attention, he would literally sit on whatever you were reading as if to say, “You weren’t really interested in that, were you?”

When Bruno became sick, he didn’t stop his body wags and his joy in seeing us. Even near the end, when he vomited everything because of the meds, he still tried to please, still wanted to play, even if for a few minutes before he collapsed in exhaustion.

Friendship of Bruno with cat
Photo credit: Janet’s Photography

He probably knew when it was time for him to go, but it was still hard – much harder on us than him, I suspect.

With Bruno gone, life is less vibrant; there’s less laughter, but it’s much quieter. No floppy ear noises, no four-paw prancing, no barking, no body wags.

I miss his companionship but most of all his approach to life, full of innocence, wonder and his unconditional love.

Michael J. Weber of Grafton is a design engineer and teacher.
Reprinted with permission

Information Please operator teaches child life lessons

When I was quite young, my father had one of the first telephones in our neighborhood.

I remember well the polished old case fastened to the wall. The shiny receiver hung on the side of the box.

I was too little to reach the telephone, but used to listen with fascination when my mother talked to it.

Then I discovered that somewhere inside the wonderful device lived an amazing person — her name was Information, Please and there was nothing she did not know.

Information, Please could supply anybody’s number and the correct time.

My first personal experience with this genie-in the-bottle came one day while my mother was visiting a neighbor.

Amusing myself at the tool bench in the basement, I whacked my finger with a hammer. The pain was terrible but there didn’t seem to be any reason in crying because there was no one home to give sympathy.

I walked around the house sucking my throbbing finger, finally arriving at the stairway. The telephone!

Quickly, I ran for the footstool in the parlor and dragged it to the landing. Climbing up, I unhooked the receiver in the parlor and held it to my ear.

Information, Please, I said into the mouthpiece just above my head.

A click or two and a small clear voice spoke into my ear, Information.

“I hurt my finger,” I wailed into the phone. The tears came readily enough now that I had an audience.

“Isn’t your mother home?” came the question.

“Nobody’s home but me.” I blubbered.

“Are you bleeding?” the voice asked.

“No,” I replied. “I hit my finger with the hammer and it hurts.”

“Can you open your icebox?” she asked.

I said I could. “Then chip off a little piece of ice and hold it to your finger,” said the voice.

After that, I called Information, Please for everything. I asked her for help with my geography and she told me where Philadelphia was. She helped me with my math. She told me my pet chipmunk, that I had caught in the park just the day before, would eat fruit and nuts.boy with old wall phone

Then, there was the time Petey, our pet canary died. I called Information, Please and told her the sad story. She listened, then said the usual things grown-ups say to soothe a child, but I was inconsolable.

I asked her, “Why is it that birds should sing so beautifully and bring joy to all families, only to end up as a heap of feathers on the bottom of a cage?”

She must have sensed my deep concern, for she said quietly, “Paul, always remember that there are other worlds to sing in.” Somehow I felt better.

Another day I was on the telephone for “Information, Please.”

Information, said the now familiar voice.

“How do you spell fix?” I asked.

All this took place in a small town in the Pacific Northwest. When I was nine years old, we moved across the country to Boston. I missed my friend very much. Information, Please belonged in that old wooden box back home, and I somehow never thought of trying the tall, shiny new phone that sat on the table in the hall.

As I grew into my teens, the memories of those childhood conversations never really left me. Often, in moments of doubt and perplexity I would recall the serene sense of security I had then. I appreciated now how patient, understanding, and kind she was to have spent her time on a little boy.

A few years later, on my way west to college, my plane put down in Seattle. I had about half an hour or so between planes. I spent 15 minutes on the phone with my sister, who lived there now.

Then without thinking what I was doing, I dialed my hometown operator and said, Information, Please. Miraculously, I heard the small, clear voice I knew so well, Information.

I hadn’t planned this but I heard myself saying, “Could you please tell me how to spell fix?”

There was a long pause. Then came the soft-spoken answer, “I guess your finger must have healed by now.”

I laughed. “So it’s really still you,” I said. “I wonder if you have any idea how much you meant to me during that time?”

“I wonder,” she said, “if you know how much your calls meant to me? I never had any children, and I used to look forward to your calls.”

I told her how often I had thought of her over the years and I asked if I could call her again when I came back to visit my sister.

“Please do,” she said. “Just ask for Sally.”

early switchboard operator

Three months later I was back in Seattle. A different voice answered, Information.

I asked for Sally.

“Are you a friend?” she asked.

“Yes, a very old friend,” I answered.

“I’m sorry to have to tell you this,” she said. “Sally has been working part-time the last few years because she was sick. She died five weeks ago.”

Before I could hang up she said, “Wait a minute. Did you say your name was Paul?”

“Yes,” I replied.

“Well, Sally left a message for you. She wrote it down in case you called. Let me read it to you.”

The note said, “Tell him I still say there are other worlds to sing in. He’ll know what I mean.”

I thanked her and hung up. I knew what Sally meant.

Never underestimate the impression you may make on others.

Whose life have you touched today?

Our stage of friendship changes over the years

stages of friendship

First stage of friendship

In kindergarten your idea of a good friend was the person who let you have the red crayon when all that was left was the ugly black one.

In first grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went to the bathroom with you and held your hand as you walked through the
scary halls.

In second grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you stand up to the class bully.

In third grade your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their lunch with you when you forgot yours on the bus.

In fourth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who was willing to switch square dancing partners in gym so you wouldn’t have to be stuck dancing with the dork of the class.

In fifth grade your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.

dancing 1800s

Next stage of friendship

In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn’t have to be embarrassed.

In seventh grade your idea of a friend was the person who let you copy the social studies homework from the night before that you had forgotten about.

In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball cards so that your room would be a “high schooler’s” room, but didn’t laugh at you when you finished and broke out into tears.

In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went with you to that “cool” party thrown by a senior so you wouldn’t wind up being the only freshman there.

In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch.

teen friends

Teen stage of friendship

In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn’t be grounded, consoled you when you broke up with your significant other and found you a date to the prom.

In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pick out a college, assured you that you would get into that college, helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go.

At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you.

friends after school

After school stage of friendship

  • Helped you clean up from that party.
  • Helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn’t deal with your parents.
  • Assured you that now that your significant other were back together, you could make it through anything.
  • Helped you pack up for college and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind.
  • And finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to come over and send you off with a hug, a lot of memories and reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past 18 years.
  • But most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved.

forever friends

Now your stage of friendship is the person who

  • Gives you the better of the two choices.
  • Holds your hand when you’re scared.
  • Helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you.
  • Thinks of you at times when you are not there.
  • Reminds you of what you have forgotten.
  • Helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer.
  • Stays with you so that you have confidence.
  • Goes out of their way to make time for you.
  • Helps you clear up your mistakes.
  • Helps you deal with pressure from others.
  • Smiles for you when they are sad.
  • Helps you become a better person.
  • However most importantly loves you!

Sharon Ogden, Kentucky